Friendships used to be a big struggle for me and a major area of insecurity. It took me a really long time to feel like I had solid friendships. A year ago this month I met my now closest friend. I had seen a picture of her and her daughter on our photographers website and recognized her from our church. Even though Chris and I had been going to our church for years, we only had close friends from our small group, and didn't know many other people in our big church. I remember thinking once I had babies it'd be easier to make friends because you'd at least have your kids to talk about. But initiating something with a total stranger is not something that comes easy to me. But I messaged Meredith, we set up a playdate and right away knew I wanted her to be my friend.
Since then we text a million times a week, get together with our girls often, ask for prayer for each other, occasionally get to eat dinner and drink wine together, brave errands with toddlers, and she's become my best friend. I'm so thankful for her and think about how much I'd be missing out if I didn't send her a message on facebook. The other day I saw someone's post on facebook about how her and her lifelong best friend both got to announce their daughters were pregnant at the same time and that now they get to be grandmas together. I immediately thought this is going to be me and Meredith. I pray we get to be friends now until we're grandmas together.
I'm in a better place spiritually, in a better place as a mom and for sure happier because she's in my life. It reminded me of my goal this year to be brave. I wonder what other opportunities or friendships I am missing out on because I let my insecurities get in the way.
I love you Meredith and Eleanor and I am so thankful you are in mine and Addilyn's life!
That's so sweet, friendships are such a beautiful thing! I certainly feel like I struggle with making new friends - I have some wonderful people in my life, but we've moved away from each other recently. I pray I find that person for this phase of my life and for years after!
That's so awesome Katie. This is a subject that has being weighing heavily on my heart lately. A lot of our friends still live back in Indiana or I have friends that live over an hour drive. Outside of being insecure about reaching out to people, I find with working I have no time to meet people and when I do make friends at work they're always at a different stage in life than I am (like a divorced mother of 4 grown adults or a 27 year old who just got engaged and still lives at home). This bothers me more now that I'm a mama because I believe you really do need other moms to relate too! I'm so glad to hear a story like yours and have faith again that these magical unicorns do exist! LOL
Making REAL friends is so hard. You have to be outgoing or at least willing to pursue the relationship and confident in yourself. Those things are tricky!! I'm working hard to make new friends and hoping that some of these new relationships will turn into lasting, life long ones. PS Your goal for the near future should be to get a picture of just you and your bestie :) Easier said than done, I know!
So sweet. Good for you for reaching out. I have the same insecurities, and just these past few months I have really been trying to be a better friend and reaching out to people to hang out. So far it's working and I'm feeling much better about the whole I moved somewhere I don't have friends thing :)
Aw I love this friendship love story!! These are the best friendships, when you are both in the same place in life. So special. Plus your daughters are so lucky too!
That's so sweet, friendships are such a beautiful thing! I certainly feel like I struggle with making new friends - I have some wonderful people in my life, but we've moved away from each other recently. I pray I find that person for this phase of my life and for years after!
ReplyDeleteThat's so awesome Katie. This is a subject that has being weighing heavily on my heart lately. A lot of our friends still live back in Indiana or I have friends that live over an hour drive. Outside of being insecure about reaching out to people, I find with working I have no time to meet people and when I do make friends at work they're always at a different stage in life than I am (like a divorced mother of 4 grown adults or a 27 year old who just got engaged and still lives at home). This bothers me more now that I'm a mama because I believe you really do need other moms to relate too! I'm so glad to hear a story like yours and have faith again that these magical unicorns do exist! LOL
ReplyDeleteMaking REAL friends is so hard. You have to be outgoing or at least willing to pursue the relationship and confident in yourself. Those things are tricky!! I'm working hard to make new friends and hoping that some of these new relationships will turn into lasting, life long ones. PS Your goal for the near future should be to get a picture of just you and your bestie :) Easier said than done, I know!
ReplyDeleteThat's so awesome! You get to have such awesome and close friends, plus your daughter has pals to play with too!
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So beautiful. What a nice post. I am so happy you messaged her. It was meant to be!
ReplyDeleteSuch a sweet friendship! Especially that your girls are close in age and you can do all those mom/kid things together!
ReplyDeleteSo sweet. Good for you for reaching out. I have the same insecurities, and just these past few months I have really been trying to be a better friend and reaching out to people to hang out. So far it's working and I'm feeling much better about the whole I moved somewhere I don't have friends thing :)
ReplyDeleteWhat a very special friendship! I'm glad you and your daughter have those relationships.
ReplyDeleteAw I love this friendship love story!! These are the best friendships, when you are both in the same place in life. So special. Plus your daughters are so lucky too!
ReplyDeleteThat's so sweet. I love that God put her in your life just at the right time when you needed her!
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