October 9, 2013

Someday


I find myself struggling with finding a schedule and routine.  I feel like as the three month mark approaches I know that Addilyn is capable of being on more of a feeding and sleeping routine.  We've made some progress with a little nap on her own here and there but nothing is close to consistent. 

I struggle because I long for time hands free to get things done.  I want time to do a workout video or unload the dishwasher without narrating play by play what I'm doing and running back and forth to her bouncy seat to make sure she's entertained.  I'd love to sit and drink my coffee on my own or have some time to blog during the day.  

BUT I also want to snuggle my baby.  I want her to sleep on my chest while I watch the Today show.  I want to soak up these moments as I know they will pass so quickly.  I want to rest while she sleeps on me.  I want to know that I took advantage of having one baby and no one else to take care of during the day. 
So where is the balance?  I don't know.  

Someday we will be on a schedule.  Someday she'll take naps in her crib.  But today is not that day.  We are choosing the snuggles over the hands free coffee drinking moment.   I'm choosing to continue to try naps but to try not stress out when it doesn't work.  And maybe tomorrow will be an attempt at a hands free nap. But not today.  

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27 comments:

  1. Savanna October 9, 2013 at 6:52 PM

    Nothing wrong with choosing baby snuggles. I sometimes regret how schedule happy I was with my first because I didn't realize that by the time the second comes you no longer get to enjoy those all day snuggles, instead you have to learn to split your time. Enjoy it! And who really wants to unload this dishwasher anyways....

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  2. Sybil@PeaceitallTogetherOctober 9, 2013 at 7:00 PM

    Some days rest with the baby is better than no rest at all. I long for days who I don't have three children following me into the bathroom every time I have to pee and quiet car rides. Yet, I would hate it if my kids didn't talk to me or didn't want to be with me. We all struggle, no matter what the stage our kids our in. Thinking of you often :)

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  3. Desiree MackeOctober 9, 2013 at 7:10 PM

    I would give almost anything to go back to the days when all we did was snuggle. Those times fly by, and before you know it you'll be longing for an afternoon snuggle sesh. Enjoy them while you can.

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  4. The Grass Skirt BlogOctober 9, 2013 at 7:25 PM

    Just enjoy this time while you have it. All of those other things will still be there months and even years from now, but you'll never be able to get this time back with your baby.

    The Grass Skirt

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  5. Lindsay @ Pursuit of PinkOctober 9, 2013 at 8:09 PM

    I agree! But for now, like you, I'm choosing to embrace all of these sweet moments with my little girl. Because the first three months have already flown by, I'm not ready for three years to pass me by that fast. You are doing great Mama! Enjoy those snuggles, the dishwasher can wait (I have to remind myself of that daily too!).

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  6. Kelsi StrongOctober 9, 2013 at 8:19 PM

    I felt the same way! They grow out of the snuggle phase too soon.

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  7. ErikaOctober 9, 2013 at 8:39 PM

    I'll be the odd man out here, and admit that I loved having a schedule. It was not set in stone, but I found that doing things around the same time every day made me and my baby happier. I think it depends on the baby though - some seem to gravitate towards a routine. And of course I agree that baby snuggles are the best!!

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  8. Curious RunnerOctober 9, 2013 at 8:58 PM

    Nawwww, i love that you are enjoying your snuggles with her. That is so special. Routine will come and work when you are all ready for it. In the mean time, keep enjoying your precious wee girl! xx

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  9. LizOctober 9, 2013 at 9:13 PM

    Cuddle that girl!!!

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  10. JenOctober 9, 2013 at 9:29 PM

    Harper would not let me put her down today & as soon as I finished school with Anna, I surrendered. I laid on the couch with her on my chest & we napped together.

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  11. Because Shanna Said SoOctober 9, 2013 at 9:39 PM

    You are so right!!! Enjoy these sweet moments. She has the rest of her life to sleep on her own...keep on with the snuggles a little while longer. :)

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  12. CarlyOctober 9, 2013 at 10:43 PM

    You have to do what works for you my friend.....it sounds like you're doing a great job!

    Carly
    www.lipglossandcrayons.com

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  13. BrittanyOctober 10, 2013 at 12:33 AM

    I had the same exact struggle with Bear right around that age. It was tough and I too felt the bittersweet-ness of wanting to hold him but needing to get things done. It passed though...probably lasted until 4-5 months. Soak up those sweet moments :) you'll miss them!

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  14. mariaOctober 10, 2013 at 3:12 AM

    The best advice I heard when I was going through a similar phase with Micha was 'This too shall pass', not only the hard stuff but also the sweet baby cuddles.
    So enjoy the cuddles and try not to stress out to much about getting into a routine.
    You're doing a great job!
    xo

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  15. two birdsOctober 10, 2013 at 9:06 AM

    i definitely remember those days. it will get better, but some days are much harder than others. always keep in mind that you should never feel guilty for wanting to have a few moments to yourself! i decided to get a sling so i could have some hands-fee time while still holding the babies. it helped a little (but not for the workout part!) hang in there!

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  16. TheTinyHeartOctober 10, 2013 at 9:09 AM

    I'm sure that in time she will be on a schedule but you should definitely savor all these moments now!

    -Sharon
    The Tiny Heart

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  17. BriOctober 10, 2013 at 9:43 AM

    Enjoy your snuggles today Mamma...there will come a day when she will rest on her own, so I say enjoy it while you can :)

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  18. J and AOctober 10, 2013 at 10:17 AM

    LOVE this post. So agree!! I never get to drink my coffee hot anymore or have to re-heat it 3 times! :) But so so worth it.

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  19. henning loveOctober 10, 2013 at 10:20 AM

    give yourself some more slack, you have been a mom for 3 months you aren't expect to have it perfect or down to a routine now you are just suppose to feed her, put her to sleep and just love her and addilyn doesn't care if you have it perfect or not she just wants her mom as she is :-)

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  20. BEAUTYEDITER.COM – Beauty BlogOctober 10, 2013 at 12:27 PM

    Another great post dear! Already excited to see your next posts.

    xoxo;
    What Kenny Hearts, a Lifestyle Blog by Kenny.

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  21. Jena RoachOctober 10, 2013 at 1:55 PM

    What a precious picture. She's a doll. I'm worried about getting baby girl on a schedule, too. I think you have the perfect attitude though, Katie :)

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  22. The Olive Tree BlogOctober 10, 2013 at 2:56 PM

    you just described what every mama goes through. naps we awful in my house. Sleep training at night was the best...nap not so much lol.

    Not such a bad gig holding that little cutie ; )

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  23. Head to Toe ChicOctober 10, 2013 at 5:52 PM

    I think baby snuggles sound amazing and that picture is the cutest :) I know you will find balance and a schedule!
    xo,
    Angela

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  24. nancy @ adore to adornOctober 10, 2013 at 6:12 PM

    I love how real this post is. While I don't have a baby of my own right now, my friends describe similar stories. =)
    xo,
    nancy

    http://adoretoadorn.blogspot.com

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  25. JessicaOctober 11, 2013 at 5:44 PM

    I would OH SO gladly come over and hold that precious girl sometime so that you could get things done :) and I would do it for free too!

    Have a beautiful and extraordinary weekend!

    Jessica
    http://mybeautifulli.blogspot.com/2013/10/blogging-about-blogging.html

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  26. JulieAnnOctober 11, 2013 at 10:12 PM

    I think one of the WORST things I did (at least for my family) was read BabyWise. The idea that you can get a baby on a strong schedule so young is kind of crazy to me. I eventually stopped pushing, and I found that I could get routines...

    You will have plenty of time to do exercise videos and dishes someday (or so I hear!). Enjoy what you have now, for it too, shall pass soon enough!

    I love you, Katie!

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  27. Jessica @ Here&NowOctober 12, 2013 at 1:38 PM

    Forget the schedule - this time of baby snuggles & warm infant skin on yours will be over before you know it!
    xx
    Here&Now

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