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As I'm adjusting to my new mom role, I've been thinking about how many of my days seem repetitive and to run together and how if I'm not intentional with my time I end a day or a week feeling not quite as satisfied and happy as I know I could be. I decided it would beneficial for me to have some sort of goals for the days and weeks. While they aren't big things, I know that if I put out a little more energy I think it will make a big difference for me.
Make adult contact besides my husband, sister or mom. Even if it's through a text. Having some kind of adult conversation makes me feel like a real person. (Not that my mom, sister or Chris are not real people but since I talk to them daily I think I should reach out a little passed just my family.)
Get out of the house most days of the week. While I have always been a home body, staying home with a baby all day makes the day seem really long. Even if it's a run to Target, a short walk or going in the car to drive through dunkin donuts. Getting out of the house makes me happy.
Initiate hanging out with friends. Sometimes I feel like I'm always asking certain friends to do things. For a week or two I decided I was going to wait for people to ask me to do something. Well they didn't. And I was not happy. As a matter of fact I had a little pity party for myself. What I need to remind myself is people aren't good initiators and I just need to suck it up because I'm a lot happier when I do things with others.
Pick up Addilyn's toys every night before I go to bed. I actually am still in a phase where I love putting away her clothes and her toys. The newness of having a baby and cute little things to put away hasn't worn off yet, but I know that it will at some point soon. However I know when I walk out to the living room in the early morning and it is at least picked up, I have a better attitude about starting the day.
Drink more water. I did a really good job at this when I was pregnant and even at the beginning when Addilyn was really little. (Which was probably more because Chris was continually filling up my water bottle). I know it's good for me, especially with nursing and I need to drink more!
Work out three times a week. This sadly may be a stretch for me once the weather is too bad to go on walks outside. I am not quite sure yet how I'm going to work in doing workout videos or running on the treadmill, but I really want and think I need to. I used to work out everyday before getting pregnant and I really miss it.
I should probably add shower everyday and blow dry my hair since it always makes me feel better about myself, but if I'm being real I am well aware that will definitely not happen. I could also write a goal about meal planning and fixing dinners but again, I'm trying to be realistic here. Maybe in a few months.
This sounds like great goals! Are you going back to school this year, or taking it all off? I'm with you on getting out of the house, so important! You are right, some people aren't good at planning play dates, but hey, they're happy to be invited and get together Andi. Think that's what counts :)
ReplyDeleteI could have made this list myself -- especially the "just to Target or through Dunkin' Donuts" part - haha! Days are VERY repetitive around here, too, and I find if I let that go on for too long, I lash out, and I don't like that (neither does my husband!).
ReplyDeleteI love having daily goals. Find a Mops group, they are wonderful for adult conversation.
ReplyDeleteI know what you mean about people initiating hangouts and things. Some people really just aren't good at it, but it's not because they don't want to hang out! I'm always the person planning things, seems like. I feel you!
ReplyDeleteI also need to be more intentionable about drinking water. About getting out and adult interaction I recommend looking into storytime at your library. I take A each week, our library system has storytimes by age group, 0-12 months has 30 mins of stories, songs, bubbles... Honestly at 3 mths it is entertaining for the babies, then we have 30 mins social time. I hope you can find something similar!
ReplyDeleteI'm also really bad at initiating. The homebody thing is a struggle...I don't like to go out.
ReplyDeleteIt is such a struggle for me to always be the one initiating. I have to continually remind myself that just because someone doesn't call me, it doesn't mean they don't want to do something. Some days I feel like I'm back in jr high, waiting for the cool girls to ask me to join their group. Crazy, huh? These are good goals, and realistic. Talking to another adult is so important.
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ReplyDeletewhat a great list of goals! and also, your outfit is super cute :)
ReplyDeletegreat goals! and reach out to me if ya want..I'm probly gonna be doing something similar as you! ;) 925 519 4676
ReplyDeleteThese are GREAT goals! I'm with you on most of these!
ReplyDeleteCarly
www.lipglossandcrayons.com
They look a lot like my goals :) , except the working out part, lugging around a heavy toddler is enough enough working out for me :).
ReplyDeleteI have the same issue with initiating to hang out with friends. Most of my friends aren't stay at home mama's like me, so that makes it even harder to set up dates.
Those are great goals Lauren! Having a new baby changes everything in your life and you have to establish new routines. Cute top too! Susan
ReplyDeleteIt's true…people just aren't great initiators. Really good goals, Katie…I need to drink more water as well.
ReplyDeleteI think it's definitely a good goal to make that if you want to hang out with friends, make the plans! I have friends that always are up for getting together for dinner or games when I invite them, but if I don't, I won't see them for long periods of time. I can't let that hurt my feelings, they just aren't the kind of people who think of inviting people over. (And they're bachelors...that could have something to do with it...not really known for fancy dinners an clean houses, ya know!)
ReplyDeleteThese sound like great goals! I admit I am terrible at initiating plans with friends. Don't take it personally...I'm sure if you reach out to your friends, they will gladly hang out with you!
ReplyDelete-Sharon
The Tiny Heart
These are great goals, Katie. Even though I'm not a mom, I definitely get a little crazy being stuck at home some days. A little fresh air and chatting with friends is such a mood-booster!
ReplyDeletethese are all great goals!! especially with the adult contact. and i have been so bad about working out and i don't even have a baby! I need to step it up!
ReplyDeleteI definitely have to remind myself to drink more water! It's just so good for you all around, your skin, your body, that why wouldn't we want to drink more :)
ReplyDeletexo TJ
http://www.hislittlelady.com
Girl, I so feel the same!! Its amazing how quickly the days and weeks go when you are just inside with the baby, and then you blink and you've essentially accomplished nothing (except taking care of tiny human and all!). I think these are great goals - I'm working on some myself to keep my sanity! :)
ReplyDeletexo, Katie @ Kathryn Laine
ADORE this vest with the color striped top! So perfect for the season :)
ReplyDeleteI think realistic goals are incredibly important, and I struggle with that. At the beginning of the weekend, I'll make a huge to do list and get maybe half of it done, so being realistic is something I really need to work on!
ReplyDeletexo, Hima
Hima Hearts
baby steps!! meal planning can wait! ;) and showering every day! it is good to have goals, though...i remember that those days can start to feel long!
ReplyDeleteThese are some wonderful goals, dear girl. I'm right there with you about initiating hanging out with friends. I hate that others won't initiate things with me but I have to remind myself that it always takes one of us to initiate and who cares if it's always me?
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