I read a lot about the blogging community and have loved others I've met and do feel like it has been and will continue to be a blessing. BUT it cannot compare to real life community.
I've been thinking a lot about the blessings that come from being in a community with others, as I have been feeling very blessed and encouraged lately by those who have prayed for us the last two years and are already in love with our daughter. It made me so grateful that I was in a relationship with so many others, whether my small group, my girls' night group or friends at school, throughout our whole struggle.
There were a lot of times during those two years that I had a hard time being around others. Each of my different social groups (church, school, friends) were all in the young kids, pregnant, baby phase and there were many times when it was a struggle to be around them, as it was a constant reminder of what I didn't have but so badly wanted.
I remember a few times telling Chris I just wanted to move away and it just be the two of us, as that seemed easier. For you it may not be a baby, but maybe others around you have a house you want, a job you're wishing for or a season free of life's trials. Whatever it is, I think it's easy to want to be by yourself and distance yourself from others, as you feel like they have no idea what you are going through. Which is probably true. But there is no way others can pray for you, encourage you and help if you don't let them in to what you are going through.
This is not to say that I don't think it is wise and necessary to say no to things and take some breaks from things sometimes, as I did. But I'm thankful that I had friends and family that were invested in praying for me and encouraging me, as I can't imagine going through life's struggles without real community. And it makes going through life's joys even better!
I'm so thankful to be surrounded by real community during our struggles and to be continued to be surrounded by community during our celebrations.