. . . for Lauren and Lauren: Right there with you

August 12, 2013

Right there with you

It's hard to explain what this first month has been like.  Part of me feels like its gone fast and other times that the days or more nights seem to be quite long.  I've been thinking a lot lately how Addilyn and I are going through the same thing.  We're tired, needy and trying to figure this whole thing out.
  
The day we met we were just thrown into life together.  Not knowing each other.  Not knowing what we look like.  What makes us happy.  What makes us cry.  And here we are spending twenty four hours a day together.  Each day getting to know each other better and better, but it takes time.  Time to learn each other's voices, faces and signs.  


The other night I was trying to comfort her and and nothing I was doing was working.  I finally just put her in her bouncy seat and sat down next to her and started crying.  A lot.  I looked at her teary face and just wanted to help her.  And then realized maybe she just needed to cry, like I was.  I wasn't hungry.  I didn't need to go the bathroom.  I wasn't ready to go to bed.  All I needed was to cry.  And maybe a hug.  So I picked her up.  Gave her a hug and kiss and just cried with her.  

I told her that we're figuring this thing out together and that some times it's okay to just cry and that I'll be right there with her.  

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37 comments:

Sybil@PeaceitallTogether said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

I love your take on this...how you are getting to know each other. That is so true! Crying together is sometimes the only thing you can do. You are doing a great job, mama!

preethi said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

Oh, this is just the sweetest thing. You're already such a wise mama. I've never thought of that before but I think you are so right. Thanks for sharing.

Denise said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

sweet moments.

Carly said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

Aw, I can't believe it's been a month ALREADY!

Carly
www.lipglossandcrayons.com

still being [molly] said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

annnnnnnd now i'm crying. this is beautiful, katie. <3

Rachel said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

Hi!! I have just found your blog through The Lady okie and it is awesome. I love the way you write, particularly about this new adventure you are on. I have a 5 1/2 month old son and I know exactly how you feel. Crying and myself are friends who often get reacquainted. You are doing a wonderful job, keep it up! x

Simply LKJ said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

You are so right to not over think things. Sometimes we just need to let loose and cry. Does her lungs good sweet mom!

Savanna said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

Every one needs a good cry one in a while and there is nothing wrong with that. It is so hard to be a mom sometimes but the something amazing will happen like their first smile or when you finally figure out what sooth them and then it is all worth it. You are doing a great job.

Savanna said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

@Savanna

*once in a while
*but then something
*what sooths them

I should probably sleep a little more before commenting next time. :)

Allison said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

This is just beautiful. You have such a great perspective. Sometimes we all just have to cry it out. :)

Terri Lynn Grothe said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

its ok to cry with them, sometimes that's all we can do. Hugs my friend

Sky-Ann @ The Little Button said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

Your such a good mommy :) It so true you are getting to know each other...and I agree sometimes you just need a good cry and there is nothing wrong with that.

Jessica said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

wow what a beautiful and raw post. I LOVE your writing. you are SO good! I am sorry you had a tough night the other day but I am glad that you are getting to know each other. Blessings!

Ginny MyNewFavoriteOutfit said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

This is so sweet and authentic, Katie. One day you'll look back at these days, and they'll only be a memory, and. Your blog is such a great way to do that. I've already forgotten so any moments like this.
Ginny

Head to Toe Chic said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

You are definitely getting to know each other and trying to see what you both need. Sometimes all you need is a good cry. I can tell you are one amazing Mama!

xo,
Angela

Suzanne Bruce said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

ooohhh... Girrrrrrrrrrrlllll.. remember those nasty hormones I told you about!!! Remember... "I won't always feel this way.. I won't always feel this way"....
BTW.. you are soooooooo pretty... you look so cute for being sleep deprived...

brittany t said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

I love those precious photos. What a sweet post. Sometimes, a good cry is exactly what we need. I love your perspective that you both are getting to know each other in these first moments of life together :) Your daughter will surely appreciate this post when she is older.

becca said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

so precious

Lindsay @ Pursuit of Pink said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

You are so right. Sometimes all you need is to cry to feel better and that is OK!!!! I've had plenty of moments when I just needed to cry and get things out and as soon as I did, I felt ready to take on the world. You are already such a great Mom!
XOXO

Housel said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

Awh I loved that you shared this. I hope to remember this post when I feel this way. Your little moments that you share are so sweet.

Kerrie Williams said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

you're such a great mom Katie! This is so honest and perfect.

Bethany Reine' said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

so so true!!! you will see when she gets older, too that sometimes, she just needs to cry. this morning, i spent 20 minutes holding lazarus on the kitchen floor. i still have no idea what that was about...but that 20 minutes was so special!

Amanda said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

This is so beautiful and honest :) love this post.

Kelly {Sparkles and Shoes} said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

This is such a perfect way to phrase it - you are figuring each other out! Thanks for being so honest and open, I feel like I am right there with you!

xx
Kelly
Sparkles and Shoes

Lori said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

:-) Sweet.

Courtney Kassner said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

Such a good way to think about your new life together. Thinking about y'all!

maria said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

Oh, me and Micha have definitely been there too! it's exactly that: figuring each other out!

TheTinyHeart said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

So true that you're figuring it out together and sometimes a good cry helps tons!

-Sharon
The Tiny Heart
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Helene in Between said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

i agree, everyone needs a good cry- even babies!

Kayla Peveler said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

This post brought me to tears. It was SO sweet, so raw... I love your love for that sweet baby girl of yours! Your family is so blessed!

two birds said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

i remember those days...short when you look back, but tiring and long (in a good way) as they go by. they say the days go by slowly, but the years pass by quickly. a good cry is good for everyone, no matter their age!

Sarah said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

So true, sometimes you just need to cry. In the early days I just always had a pan of brownies on hand. At the end of the day when hubby came home, looked at the pan of brownies and would say, so it was a 5 brownie kind of day huh? I laugh at it now, but those brownies did make me feel better :)

Annie said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

I just love this post Katie. It's so sweet and so real...and you guys will figure it out together like you said :)

Annie
The Other Side of Gray

Colleensamantha said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

I am not a mommy, but this post made me smile... you sweet girl is so precious!

Susannah said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

You are such a great mom, Katie! :-)

Desiree Macke said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

The definition of motherhood: excruciatingly long days, with weeks, months and years that simply seem to fly right by.

Laura said... Best Blogger TipsBest Blogger Templates

You are already such a great mom :)